Thursday, November 6, 2014

Upcoming Events


Colorado


Free Information Meeting
November 20th 6:30-8:30 pm
Fort Collins
First Presbyterian Church, Room 204
531 South College Ave
Please RSVP 2 days in advance to coloradohih@msn.com or 970-226-8948


MARK YOUR CALENDARS TO ATTEND A HAND IN HAND CHRISTMAS PART

 

Please join us in a celebration of the joys of international adoption. You are encouraged to bring your extended families too!
INDIANA - Saturday, December 6, 2014 ~ 4:00 – 7:00 PM at Central Noble High School, Albion, Indiana - Please bring one or more dishes to share depending on the size of your family; international specialties are always enjoyed! After dinner we will have Special Entertainment by Hand In Hand Families. (Please consider sharing your talent – music, dance, poetry, comedy, a unique talent, whatever! Contact us at hihiadopt@frontier.com to be added to the program!)
COLORADO - Saturday, December 6th - 1pm-3pm - St. Stephen’s Lutheran Church, Fellowship Hall - 10828 N. Huron St., Northglenn, CO 80234. More details to come in the November newsletter.

Request For Photos/ Family Stories


Dear Hand In Hand Families and Friends,

In an effort to continue to advocate for children around the world in need of families, Hand In Hand is gathering photos and stories from our adoptive families. We would like to share these photos and stories on our website, Facebook page, e-newsletter, and print publications. We know that stories and photos of adoptive families are one of the most effective ways of advocating for waiting children. In addition, we would like to use these photos and stories in celebrating our 40 years of service to children in need.

We will compile the photos and stories into a short video clip as a special gift to MaryLee Lane, our CEO and founder, as well as sharing them on our website, Facebook page, e-newsletter and print publications.

Will you please join us in celebrating our work and in continuing to advocate for children who need families?

Please send the following:

  • Your family photo to share (we would love if you’d like to incorporate the number “40” in your photo)
  • Your family story or quote to share
  • The following statement signed and dated:
“Yes, I/we give Hand In Hand International Adoptions permission to use our pictures, story/quote, initials, and our state of residence on the agency website, Facebook page, e-newsletter, and print publications.”

_______________________________________________
Signed Date
Printed Name: ___________________________________

Send to:
Hand In Hand, 2519 S. Shields #106, Fort Collins, CO 80526

Thank you for celebrating 40 years of Hand In Hand and joining us in advocating for the thousands of children who continue to wait for families of their own!!!

Wednesday, November 5, 2014

A CALL TO ACTION!


YOU CAN HELP HAND IN HAND ADVOCATE FOR WAITING CHILDREN!


Social media, twitter, blogs, email, websites, and other internet channels are excellent methods of communicating important information to people across the globe quickly. Hand In Hand is requesting YOUR help! Will you please be a part of our team by advocating for waiting children?

We are asking everyone to feature Hand In Hand on their many media outlets…Facebook, twitter, family blogs, emails to friends and family, etc… It’s super simple! You can just cut and paste the statement below (or write your own!) and email it to friends and family, put it as your Facebook status, or as a blog entry. Please take 3 minutes and share this now!! So many children are waiting!

We would love a link to your Facebook or blog or a copy of your email when you respond to this call to action so we can watch the power of our Hand In Hand village impact the lives of waiting children!! Email us the link or copy us on your email at coloradohih@msn.com.
THANK YOU FOR JOINING HAND IN HAND IN OUR ENDEAVOUR TO FIND A FAMILY FOR EVERY CHILD!
 
Here is a sample statement to share:
As you know, adoption is important to our family. At this moment there are thousands of children around the world waiting for a family of their own. Hand In Hand International Adoptions is looking for people who would like to provide a family to these many waiting children. Please visit: http://www.handinhandinternationaladoptions.org/ to learn more!

CHILDREN WHO WAIT
The China Special Focus program and the Philippines Special Home Find program are each country’s effort to find good families for children who can thrive if only given the opportunity. You can find information about each program from any Hand In Hand office or at Hand In Hand Facebook Page and our blog www.kidswait.org . Please see listings of currently waiting children on Facebook, our blog or website… or email us at hihiadopt@frontier.com and we will send you the most current listings.

WE CAN DO YOUR HOME STUDY
Are you using another agency for your adoption but wondering how you will be able to get your home study, pre-adoption education, and post adoption services completed in a way that is compliant with the Hague Convention or the Universal Accreditation Act?
If you live in a state where we have an office (Colorado, Florida, Indiana or Minnesota) we can help! Since we are licensed in each state where we have an office and we are Hague-accredited, we are most likely able to provide home studies, adoption training, and post placement services that will meet the requirements of the placing agency and whichever foreign country you are adopting from. Contact any of our offices for more details.

COUNTRY UPDATES

Bulgaria – Our Bulgaria program is open and we are eager to receive new applications.  Please contact your local Hand In Hand office or Karin Link in the Minnesota Office. Children are of a rich, ethnic background: Bulgarian, Turkish and Roma. Children ages 1-15 years old, with the majority being over three years old; there is a great need for families open to children between four and eight years old, as well as for families open to children with special needs. Male and female children and sibling groups are available. Most children have mild to moderate medical conditions; the wait for the referral of a healthy child is currently very long.

Brazil – We are awaiting accreditation in Brazil and hope to get good news in January. To learn more about this program, contact Camilla Turquia Gomes, Director of Development, Brazil Program Director. My email address is camillaturquia@hihiadopt.org. I appreciate your interest in adopting from my beloved country, and I look forward to starting this journey with you!

China – The China Center of Adoption Affairs has most recently matched families with log-in dates of December 14, 2006. If your dossier is logged in for a regular match and you are getting discouraged with the wait, please know that you can consider the match of a special needs child without removing your dossier from your “place in line” at CCAA. If you know you want to do this, please contact us at hihiadopt@frontier.com and submit an updated Type of Child form so that our staff in China can know which child may be a possibility for you.

China/Special NeedsWe can assist families with adoption of children with special needs from China in three ways, including being matched from the Shared List, being matched to a child who has been designated “Special Focus” because he or she has waited over a month to be matched, or by adopting a child from a province where Hand In Hand has a direct relationship to help match waiting children.

China and Single Applicants – Single females may adopt a child through China’s Special Focus program. The specific requirements the applicant has to meet can be found on the US State Department website at:
http://adoption.state.gov/country_information/country_specific_alerts_notices.php?alert_notice_type=notices&alert_notice_file=china_1 Persons interested in this option can contact any Hand In Hand office for information on which Special Focus children are currently waiting for families. Brief information on the children is also posted on Hand In Hand’s Facebook page and blog www.kidswait.org .

China – Two children - It is possible for a married couple to adopt two children from China at once or successively in the same year, if at least one of them is a Special Focus child.

Haiti –After working in Haiti since 1990, Hand In Hand is committed to continuing our work in Haiti with the utmost integrity, and we look forward to future opportunities in this country. IBESR (Haiti's adoption authority) has placed a priority on the receipt of new applications for adoption from Haitian-American families.  They have asked Hand In Hand to focus on such applications at this time.  Applications to Hand In Hand from families without Haitian heritage are therefore on hold at this time.  Meanwhile, families with Haitian heritage who are interested in adopting from Haiti are encouraged to contact Karin at minnesota@hihiadopt.org to learn more about the process and requirements.


Philippines – Applicants for Philippine adoption should have at least a high school diploma, a minimum annual income of $40,000 and no more than two divorces. Only a very few applications can be submitted each year for young, healthy children. However, there is a great need for applicants open to children with special needs, children over age 6, and large sibling groups.

Philippines Single Parent Adoption – Single applicants for adoption from the Philippines must be open to the adoption of children 9 years old or older. The parent must be at least 16 years older than the child but not more than 45 years older than the child.

Philippines Special Home Find - There are many Filipino children who are older than six or who have special needs or who are a part of a sibling group who need families. They are listed on a Special Home Find list and families can review the list and apply to adopt a child they think could fit well into their family. Contact the Indiana office to have the list emailed to you or look for it on our website or blog.

 

Philippines Summer Hosting Program – If you are considering the adoption of a child between 7 and 15 years old, then the hosting program might interest you. Many children in Philippine orphanages will never be considered for adoption, simply because of their age. One way that the Philippine government has found to be effective to find these children families is to allow them to make a one month visit to the US to stay with potential adoptive families. The families can spend time getting to know the children whom they host, and then later decide if adoption of the host child seems right for them. Even if the children do not end up being adopted, the hope is that they will at least have had a respite from orphanage life for a while and had a chance to visit America. Thus far though, we have a 98% success rate for adoption of children who have participated in our hosting programs! Contact Indiana@hihadopt.org for more information or to be put on the list for our next host program.

Resources Available For Boy 1014-7 Waiting In China


We are thrilled to share that a wonderful family who adopted 3 children with a condition similar to this little one's has come forward and would be happy to share their experiences with interested families. They are advocating for this sweet boy and are willing to connect families to available resources. You can visit their blogs at: wewereledtoyou.BlogSpot.com and ourchinaangel.BlogSpot.com


Boy 5 years (1014-7) – This sweet little boy has an outgoing personality. He has large pigmented nevi (black spots) covering much of his body as well as a neurofibroma on his hip. He appears to be developmentally on target with his fellow mates. He enjoys singing, games, and playing with toys. (From a report dated April 2013)

UPDATE report dated May 2014: This little guy's update reports that he is active and outgoing. He likes to talk with people he knows and enjoys cuddling with his caretaker. He especially likes playing outside and building blocks. He is healthy and developing normally. His neurofibroma is not growing larger and does not cause him any pain.

For information about adopting this child, contact Vickie at Indiana@hihiadopt.org.

Parenting Tips - November 2014


Parenting Tips is a regular newsletter feature prepared by Kim Kuehner, PhD,
Hand In Hand social worker and Placement Supervisor

If you’re reading Parent Tips for the first time, the last few months of ‘Tips’ have been about how fostering connection with our children can lead to positive behavior changes with consistent steps in between. This Parent Tip will explore the third principle regarding efficient responses. A review of the IDEAL response process of the Correcting Principles (taken from Trust Based Relational Intervention; TCU Institute of Child Development) shows the five levels.
I-D-E-A-L RESPONSE
I: Immediate response initiated within THREE seconds - no matter where you are or what you are doing.
D: Direct eye contact and proximity – not scary, just close.
E: Efficient response – it fits the intensity of the misbehavior – not your own emotions.
A: Action-based – a way to practice positive, respectful behavior with rewards and NO shame.
L: Leveled at the misbehavior and not at your child – no one is the bad guy – not your child and not you.


LEVELS OF RESPONSE:
Using more force than necessary may escalate the situation.
Instead learn to identify the appropriate response level for each situation.
LEVEL 1: PLAYFUL ENGAGEMENT. This skill is important in general for your communication with your child. Use playful engagement for relatively minor behavior problems such as mild disrespect, sassy tone, talking back, rolling eyes, interrupting, etc. Playful engagement means using a warm and playful tone of voice. It’s a gentle way to remind a child of more positive behavior without a struggle and without harshness. For example: “Hey there. Would you try that again with respect this time?”
LEVEL 2: STRUCTURED ENGAGEMENT. When playful engagement isn’t enough, move on to structured engagement. When this level is needed, still approach your child with gentleness and get on his level. Make eye contact and use a lower and firmer tone than with playful engagement. Becoming angry will not help your child to learn. Make sure that you remain calm, consistent and in control (of yourself). Demonstrate that you want to help your child learn to do it right. Provide a little more structure to facilitate the behavior change you want. Assess if your child needs some help with self-regulation. If so, start there. Use choices, compromises and redirection always remembering to keep in connection with your child.
LEVEL 3: CALMING ENGAGEMENT. Sometimes our children need extra help with self-regulation. We can help them learn the skills to calm down and think things over. For this level, parents may need to use a lower tone of voice and a slower cadence. It’s important not to leave your child alone during this time. A “time-in” may be useful and you being in the same room shows that you are available to help with the thinking-it-over time. Help you child use skills for deep breathing, relaxing muscles, positive self-talk, running around the yard, etc. Someday he’ll be able to calm himself without help. After your child calms down and has thought about the situation, you can help by problem solving with him. Figure out together just how to manage that situation in a better way. Then go back to the “scene of the incident” and re-do it. Celebrate success with your child.
LEVEL 4: PROTECTIVE ENGAGEMENT. This level of response is needed when there is a threat to your child’s or anyone else’s well-being. Level 4 response voice is very firm and slow. It is intense but not loud. The object is to help your child calm down safely. We don’t always know what has caused a meltdown and so compassion is crucial. Parents may need to firmly get the child’s attention with words like: “use your words” or “stop and breathe”. Parents may need to physically hold the child to prevent harm. Holding with a calm manner using a soft but firm voice may help. It does not help for a parent to become upset. Use few words and stay with your child until he is calm and can be redirected.
Above all, maintain your connection with your child. Practice self-calming skills during times when things are going well. Be consistent with “fun” re-dos so that your child looks forward to those successful times.

Introducing “Para Mi Mama – A Letter To My Birth Mom" (a short film by Lexi Hiland) 

Click here to view the video

Consider Adopting A Child With Visual Impairment


Hand In Hand was happy to receive information about Bethel China, an organization that advocates for visually impaired children. They have compiled the information below for those who are interested in adopting a child with visual impairment or those who would like to help advocate for these children. The information is also available on their webpage: Bethel China Advocacy Ideas
 
1. “Exposed to Hope” E-book (bethelchina.org/exposed-to-hope-book)
Exposed to Hope is an E-book available for $2.99 featuring the stories of 13 families who have adopted a child with a visual impairment from China. From babies, toddlers to teenagers, from children with cancer to albinism to eye conditions you’ve never heard of. Families share honest and beautiful accounts of family life, school, independence, attachment, surgery and more. We can offer a discount for adoption agencies who would like to promote the book amongst their families.

2. Pinterest (pinterest.com/bethelchina)
These Pinterest boards are full of information and hundreds of links to articles about family, education, craft, daily life, independent living skills, technology, toys, mobility, adoption, parenting and more. If a family has a question about braile, link them to the Braille board. If they have a question about a child becoming independent, link them to the ‘independent teenagers’ board. The craft and games pages are packed with resources to ensure a blind child doesn’t get left out of the fun.

What began as a way to keep sponsors updated with Bethel has become a tool to breakdown stereotypes and perceptions and replace them with positive images of blind children aged 1-14. Potential parents can imagine a blind child who is an orphan, healthy and happy in a loving environment where they can reach their potential. Advocates can share photos of blind children swimming, hiking, riding bikes, recording songs, reading/writing at school, riding on public transport etc...

4. Videos
We have a number of videos on our Youtube channel of blind children walking to the store, riding the subway, beading necklaces, choosing products in the supermarket, and just having fun. We also have an interview with an 18-year-old adoptee who is independent, smart and funny. Videos can help children come alive and allow a potential to imagine life with a child who is visually impaired. Bethel China's "Happy" video by Pharrell Williams and our new Love is Blind music video are both fun to advocate with. 
 
5. Wonderbaby.org
WonderBaby.org, a project funded by the Perkins School for the Blind, is dedicated to helping parents of young children with visual impairments as well as children with multiple disabilities. Here you'll find a database of articles written by parents who want to share with others what they've learned about playing with and teaching a blind child. We focus on real-life advice and real-life experiences.